A self-love narcissist looking in the mirror is an image known to everyone. But behind this caricature lies a deep personality disorder that poisons the lives not only of the narcissist but also of everyone who falls into his orbit. Narcissism today has become a fashionable word: it is used to label egotistical bloggers, toxic bosses, and even ex-spouses. However, true narcissism is not just "I love myself." It is a fragile, glass-like self-esteem, parasitizing on others' attention, and a complete lack of empathy. Can one fight narcissism? And what to do if you discover its traits in yourself? What is narcissism Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is included in the DSM-5 (diagnostic manual). Its signs: a grandiose sense of self-importance, fantasies of success and power, a need for constant admiration, a sense of uniqueness, exploitation of others, a lack of empathy, jealousy, and the belief that others envy him. Important: narcissism is a spectrum. There are healthy narcissistic traits (self-confidence, leadership), and there is a pathology that hinders living. The cause is often childhood trauma: either excessive flattery ("you are the center of the earth") or coldness and humiliation ("you are a nobody"). The child builds a defense - a grandiose "I" to not feel pain. Types of narcissism Grandiose (open) narcissist - a braggart, demanding applause. He does not doubt his greatness. Vulnerable (hidden) narcissist - outwardly shy, but inside convinced of his uniqueness. He suffers from the fact that the world does not recognize his genius. Malignant narcissist - a mixture of narcissism with antisocial disorder: he is aggressive, vengeful, capable of cruelty. It is important to understand that behind the mask of arrogance lies a wounded child. But this does not justify toxic behavior. How to recognize a narcissist in relationships First, he charms: "you are the only one," "no one understands you like I do." Then he devalues: "you are too sensitive," "it's you ... Read more